From Chaos to Calm: Masterful Listening Illuminated by Your Inner Child

Welcome to another episode of Masterful Listening, where we embark on a multidimensional journey towards inner peace amidst life's chaos. Through the art of masterful listening, we uncover the transformative power of reconnecting with our inner child. Delving deep into the essence of compassionate self-parenting, we learn to nurture ourselves with the love and care we longed for in our youth, fostering a newfound sense of strength and healing. 

Alongside practical mental wealth tools and techniques, we explore the harmony that comes from embracing the innocence, joy, and wisdom of our inner child. Join me as I navigate the complexities of life through Masterful Listening, guided by the principles of rediscovery and self-compassion, towards a harmonious and fulfilling existence.

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Hello, masterful listeners. So today we're gonna tap into the wisdom of our inner child. You know, that little being inside of us that whether we are aware of or not, you know, it's controlling a lot of our life. Often we didn't have the kind of support, parenting, love experiences that made ourselves feel safe in the world. Some of us might have had a childhood that, you know, felt joyful and fun and peaceful, or maybe aspects of it. And others perhaps were faced with fear or abandonment or a sense of even panic or confusion. Whatever your specific background is as a child, I find that in moments of chaos. And I've been in my own moment of chaos uh for a little bit now after my doggy Rad got diagnosed with a brain tumor. I found myself feeling so lost and so scared. And I probably spent half the weekend just crying. And by the way, I think giving yourself time to process feelings, especially in chaotic times, is very important and very healthy. But I realized that I don't want him and me to live in constant fear of what's to come, right? When I was a kid, I really don't remember constantly making up crappy stories about what was coming. I remember being mostly present. You know, I grew up as a little immigrant child in Brooklyn. My family was really poor. We didn't have a lot, but my memories are positive. I remember rollerblading outside late at night, playing with my friends in this little crappy backyard that we had in this massive building. Uh I remember the joy I felt when I would look out the window and wait for my sister to come home holding a little gap bag because she always bought me little t-shirts. It was like the little things, the everyday little things that brought me a lot of joy and presence. And I think when we're kids, we're just more present. And as life happens and as chaos ensues, as uncertainty hits, as grief hits, it's often hard to be present because, well, presence can imply, but then I'm just gonna be even more in the chaos. And yet what I found is that chaos grows more when we can't just settle into it, right? Like if there's a horrible storm outside and we're just sitting there, kind of like I was a few days ago, where it was so windy, and I kept hearing the wind and going, oh my God, is the wind gonna get even stronger and blow everything away? And that made me terrified. And then I said, it's just wind, it's strong, it'll probably subside at some point, and it did. All of life's chaos at some point subsides. This too shall pass is simply fact. And yet, how do we handle those moments of chaos? Because it sucks living in chaos. It's anxious, it's paranoid. It, you know, I hadn't slept for five days because Rad was adjusting to his medication and he was up all night and I was up all night. And the first two nights I screamed. I screamed at him, I screamed at life, and then I thought, no, no, no, no, no. I grew up with a lot of yelling. I really do not like yelling. It like triggers me. I don't want to scream when I'm upset and scared. I want to breathe into it and ask myself, what is needed right now? What is actually needed in this moment that can de-escalate it and not escalate it even more? Right? We want to as much as we can find peace and presence within the chaos. Because think about it, when you do that, what can really knock you down? Yeah, you know, we want to de-escalate, we want to love ourselves, we want to have less panic because panic doesn't help, more love, more support. And we just weren't taught that. So that's what we're gonna focus on today. And of course, welcome back to the world's first super rad listening school that you really want to attend. Uh, I'm gonna share a story uh about just kind of what's been happening in the past week. If you've listened to the last episode, you've heard some more details, but even if you haven't, I'll go over just a bit of what's been happening and then how I've been reconnecting with the little Svetlana, little Svieta, as I was called, to see how she can guide me and also how I can guide her. I'm parenting myself, reparenting myself, supporting myself to the best of my ability so that I can calm that fear, right? We're really driven by either love or fear. And it is not always easy to be in a state of love, you know, and openness and presence. And yet that's why we got to practice. And I think something that I've realized is instead of asking myself, why is this happening to me, I've been saying, what is this bringing me? What is my opportunity here? Not again to disregard the challenge, the pain, but to just get curious about if there was something here that was going to serve me in my life, what is that? Because I want to find it. At least I got that through all the pain. And I know for me, my situation with Rad, as devastating as it has been, it has connected me deeper to presence. I am even more present with him on our walks. Every moment I spend with him feels so much more precious. And when I notice my mind going to the future, him getting more sick, him dying, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot. Um, I just bring myself back. Uh, he's like the greatest meditation and dharma teacher I've ever had. And I invite you to consider that everything in your life that is stressing you, that is worrying you, that is your meditation teacher, your mindfulness teacher. We don't learn lessons the way we always want to. Like, have you learned some super deep important lessons when you were really happy and everything was great? Yeah, probably not. That's not when we learn. And fundamentally, in a lot of my research into psychology and neuroscience and just positive psychology and what human beings really want, fundamentally, we do want to grow, but growth can be uncomfortable. So the more you can get comfortable within your discomfort, and the more you can be okay or pretty okay within situations that so do not feel okay, the more you can reconnect with that little girl or little boy inside who's just afraid and probably just needs a hug and to be told it's gonna be okay, right? If your kid came to you and said, Mom, dad, I'm so worried about this thing that could happen, how would you speak to them? Are you speaking to yourself in that way? Hmm, well, maybe you can start. So before I dive into more of the story and some of the tools that I believe can definitely help you because they've been helping me, they help me go from absolute torture to honestly the last couple of days have felt kind of normal. I I even forgot that Rod was sick because in the moments yesterday and today, he's completely fine. And so am I, and I'm so grateful for that because I just want to enjoy my life. I want him to enjoy his life. I want you to enjoy your life because this moment that we're in right now, where you're listening to this podcast, everything is okay in this moment. Probably in this moment, your world is not on fire. It could just feel like it is. So let's come back to the moment, which is what masterful listening is all about. So, as you listen today, here's the lens that I invite. Deep presence now. Put everything away. This is not a podcast to listen to when you're half distracted. If you sincerely want to listen, which is the other question, listen only if you really want to. Have you been feeling chaotic? Do you want some more peace? Do you want some tools to reconnect with your inner child? Cool, you're in the right spot. I welcome you to take a breath and just relax and listen to my words, listen to my feelings. If you get distracted, rewind, come on back. And if you're really so distracted that now is just not a good time, turn it off. Listen to it later. There is no pressure. You're not required to do anything. I really hope this serves you. And also let's breathe in to wherever you are right now. If your life is going great, cheers to you. Thank you. Let's say thank you to the universe that there are some of you out there whose life isn't chaotic. And maybe these tools will serve you when it inevitably gets chaotic. Or maybe you send this to someone who's been suffering. And if your life is chaotic, let's just together say, okay, life, I see you, I feel you, I get it. Maybe you don't like it. Kind of feels unfair and shitty, but here I am. This is it. And while this too shall pass, while the it, while the this is it can kind of suck, there are things we can do. So what are those things? All right. Well, the first thing that I want to say, even amidst my situation, which again to bottom line it real quick, the love of my life, Rad got diagnosed with a brain tumor. He started having seizures. It was terrifying. It was scary. It was trips to the hospital. It was sitting on doctors' offices, office floors, it was seeing a brain scan with a tumor. I mean, I I just was so sad. I was so overwhelmed. I was shocked. It was like, this isn't supposed to be happening to me. This isn't supposed to be happening rad. It's too soon. It's not fair. All of that, super valid. So the first thing that I did that I really want to share is so important, is I just let myself feel all of that. And it was uncomfortable and it was sad. But letting yourself feel your feelings is not only super kind, it's effective. When we block feelings, they just get bigger and bigger and they get stored, and then we usually erupt. Uh, we might treat other people poorly, we treat ourselves poorly. A lot of us drink it away, smoke it away, uh, just numb them. And I know it could be really hard to feel your feelings because we also make feelings bad and wrong. Oh, this is not appropriate for me to be feeling. You know, I was kind of doing that. I was laying around this weekend, and after a few hours of me just laying on the couch being so sad and tired, I thought, oh, I'm wasting the weekend. I should be having fun with Rad all the time. I suddenly wanted every moment of our time to feel great. I felt guilty. Now you're just laying around. You should be walking with him, you should be playing with him. And then I thought, but of course I'm laying around and I'm sad. I just got this really hard news. Let me give myself some time to just be with it. And after a few hours of that, we went and took a really long walk. And I left and I gave him extra food, right? So, first, when you feel that your feelings are starting to make you uncomfortable, can you just breathe into that and even say to yourself I'm allowed to feel this, this is normal. It makes sense that I feel overwhelmed. It makes sense that I don't even understand these feelings. It makes sense that I'm crying. It makes sense that I'm yelling. When I woke up in the middle of the night and started yelling, I was so upset first that that was happening. Then I was upset with myself for yelling. And then I caught it really quickly and I was like, wow, yeah, this makes sense. I'm tired. I'm scared. And then I thought, well, he's tired and scared too. So, okay, I yelled. So that's an appropriate reaction, and yet, is it the best one that I want to have? Can I find a way to process this without escalating the chaos? So I decided when he woke me up, which he would do, I kind of accepted that as well, even though I don't like it. You know, we can accept things we don't like. It's like that radical acceptance. It's a very powerful tool. It's not easy. But it's just this constant awareness. Oh, here's what I'm doing right now. Here's what my autopilot does. Somewhere in me, my autopilot has been trained to scream because that's what I grew up with. Unfortunately, my father would yell because he didn't know any better. That's one of the reasons my mother divorced my bio dad. And I'm so glad she did. My stepdad, who I love so deeply, who's my dad, I consider, he's so sweet and gentle. I haven't heard him raise his voice in a very long time. And I love that. And again, it's okay. I raised my voice. It was the autopilot. And then I said, All right, how do I want to show up for these moments better? And I thought, I just want to be sweet and calm. And even if I'm super exhausted, I just want to say, okay, Raddy, you got off the bed. Come back. Come back. And as I raise my voice, I lower it again. And I also stopped convincing him, he doesn't want to get back in bed. Fine, sleep on the floor. You keep growling at me, okay, I'm gonna get up. We're gonna go sleep on the couch. And you know what? When we did that, he kind of calmed down. Then I realized, all right, I'd rather sleep on the couch a little less comfortably than not be able to sleep in my bed at all, right? So first, I let myself feel. Second, I let myself just process it in some ways, like crying, screaming, not at him, not at me, but maybe at God. Maybe you want to go to a rage room and beat the shit out of a bunch of stuff. That might help. A lot of people find that really useful. And then it's asking good questions. If you've listened to the show, you've known uh, or you know that I've said a lot. Ask great questions, uh, get great answers, ask crappy questions, ruin your life. What kind of questions would you ask your younger self? Uh, if you look at the cover art for this episode, I found the funniest, cutest photo. I think I'm about maybe eight or nine in that photo. And I put a side by side of me when I was probably about 30 with that photo of me when I was about nine, maybe ten. And I look exactly the same. Like, look at my mannerism. I'm standing with my hands on my side, kind of like being a boss. And I'm like, she's such a little boss. I was a little boss. I was a sensitive little boss. Uh, I was confident. I don't think anyone told me to pose like that. I think I just did it. And it was so sweet. So I think when I've been looking at the questions I ask myself, first of all, I always like to start questions with what, not why. I think focusing too heavily on the why can really lead to more suffering. Now, Simon Sinek might disagree. I think why matters, but I think why takes time. We don't know why. Why did my dog get a brain tumor? Literally nobody can answer that. Why is this happening to me? It just makes me feel like a victim more. And if little Svieta, little Svietichka, little me was really sad or scared, I don't think I'd ask why. I think I'd say, what are you feeling right now? What would you like to do right now that might make you feel a little bit better? What brings you joy? What can I do to help you? Would you like a hug? Would you like a toy? Right? The next time you find yourself asking a why question that is not helping you, change the why to a what and ask something that might be supportive. Okay. I'm not telling you to suddenly feel good when you feel like crap, but if you start asking what questions, it might really serve you. It massively serves me and all of my clients. Okay. The other thing is savor the moment. Kids are present. Like typically kids are just in the moment, they're playing. And even if they get upset or sad or scared, you know, they feel it, they express it, they cry, and then in a moment, they're just like back to normal. It's kind of amazing how kids recover so quickly. And I was just thinking last night when I was falling asleep that I used to think that some people were really strong and they didn't really have those bad emotions. And other people like me were not because I feel all these things so deeply and I'm so sad. And it's like, whoa, whoa, whoa. No, I actually think real strength is being able to feel all that and recover. Recover. Our recovery time can significantly decrease if we stay in the moment and ask ourselves, what do I need in this moment? When I met with an animal communicator last week, she told me that Rad's message for me that he was really saying loudly was, Mom, if I'm having a seizure, I want you in that moment to just breathe and stay calm and ask yourself, what do I need in this moment? And when I imagine that, and I will do this next time, even though I really hope it doesn't happen for a very long time, if ever. Like if I imagine that, I think what I need in that moment is just to love him and hold him and know that it will end and he will be okay, to breathe, to not panic. I unfortunately was sort of trained to panic because I had parents who panicked, and for good reason. My parents are Eastern European immigrants who literally ran away from persecution. They had a very legitimate reason to be afraid. A lot of us out there have legitimate reason. Legitimate reasons to be afraid. However, drowning in fear, if we can do anything about that, I mean, it's just not helpful. It's not effective. It's like a monsoon. And what helps is first just noticing, oh, I'm doing that again. I'm really afraid. Okay, I'm gonna validate that. Of course I'm afraid. What's in this moment? So one way to ground in the moment, especially if you're prone to like anxiety or panic attacks, is to literally first try to take a few deep breaths. Let's do that right now. Would you just breathe with me for three long breaths? I close my eyes, I breathed in my nose and out my mouth. Just three breaths can really shift your state, calms your body, right? So you notice, you breathe and ask a good question. What do I need right now for some peace? What does the little me right now need for some peace? And how can I love the shit out of that little person? Right? This brings yourself back. Brings yourself back. We want to bring ourselves back over and over and over and over again. That is, I think, mastery, and that is masterful listening because it shows that you paid enough attention to that chaotic moment that was just like pulling you away, like a riptide. And if you've been in a riptide, and I have, or if you've heard about riptides, what do you got to do to not drown? You cannot fight it. You cannot fight the ocean. You will lose a hundred percent of the time. So what you do in a riptide is you let it take you, but you pay attention to your breath, to the water. And as soon as you feel like that tide has shifted a little, you swim like your life depends on it. That's the what do I need in this moment? I need to stay calm and I need to pay attention, and then I need to act. Right? So, what is an action that you can do? Well, this one is gonna be a little bit more on the woo side of things, meaning it's a more of a spiritual practice. But you know what? It's one of the most powerful things I've done. And I actually hadn't done it for a few months, and I even thought, man, I wonder why, or I wonder if this is why shit's falling apart a little bit. But uh that wasn't the best question. Uh it's uh it's talking to the moon. Talking to the moon. You know that song by Bruno Mars? Check that one out. That has nothing to do with what I'm saying, but I'm very connected to the moon. I am a moon child, I'm a cancer. I have just, I've always just had this deep pull to the moon. And the other night, it was a full moon, I think on Tuesday, April 23rd. It was exactly 10 days after Rod's first seizure. And I was standing outside with him late at night, and he was kind of doing that really cute, sweet Rod thing he does, which is just standing there and smelling the air. And I was smelling the air with him, and I looked up and I saw the moon, and I thought, ooh, that's I'm gonna do this moon ritual. For years on the full moon, I would write a little letter to the moon, to the universe, in gratitude, in advance for the next month. Instead of wishing and wanting and asking why, I would just say, Hey, moon, hey universe, hey God, hey spirit, hey life, whatever word you want to use. The moon just kind of reminds me, oh, it's that time of month again. I would say thank you so much in advance, and then I would just list all the things that I do wish would happen, but as if they'd happened. So, what that looked like the other night is I said, Hey, full moon, thank you so much in advance for the fact that me and Rad sleep so well tonight and every night. And by the way, that was the first night since everything happened that we slept with a whole night. I said, Thank you so much, Moon, for Rad's health and him feeling good and vibrant and his medication working, and he's not having seizures, and we are so happy together. Thank you in advance that I've calmed down and I've found greater acceptance and that I'm enjoying my days. And thank you so much in advance for the fact that I have this amazing work coming in and more money coming in and more stability. And thank you so much to the friends that are showing up who are listening and loving me. And thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. This is really powerful for a few reasons. First of all, gratitude is one of the most powerful medicines I've ever discovered. Just looking for things to be grateful for is powerful in itself because there is something always to be grateful for. And if you're in a place where you're like, fuck that, no way, everything's a complete disaster. Well, let me tell you, I've been there. But you know, the one thing that I could find in those moments? Thank you that I'm breathing. Thank you that I can still breathe. You can always say thank you for that if you're alive. Gratitude. Thank you in advance. When you thank the universe in advance, whatever you're thanking it for has a way higher chance of happening. It's a little bit of quantum physics. The observer changes what's being observed. And um however that lands with you, notice that. And if you think this is a bunch of BS, that's totally fine. Why don't you try it and see for yourself? And if it doesn't work, okay. But you know what's cool about it? Even if all those things that I said I'm grateful for in advance don't exactly happen, in that moment that I'm saying thank you in advance for this, it already helps me in that moment. It grounds me, it helps me imagine a future that I actually want. And um, you know, we're often making up all kinds of crappy futures. I used to have a friend who would joke with me and he's like, Oh, Svet, are you doing that again? Making up horrible futures. Yeah, how does that feel? Yeah. How about you try to make up some great futures? Because at the end of the day, our brain, do you know that our brain doesn't understand what's true and what's false? Like our brain doesn't know if we're lying to it. It's just listening to our words, which is then uh literally rewiring those neural pathways, which is building new highways. So are you driving on a highway that has like a bazillion holes in it and is terrifying? Or are you driving on a highway that's just a bit more smooth, right? Like you actually can restructure that highway. It's really freaking cool. You can do that till the day you die. You can practice it every moment. You can talk to the moon, say thank you in advance for what's to come. When you say I want this, that's also good. Like, what do you want? What do I want for myself? Great. But when you say thank you already that I have this, you just empower yourself to believe that maybe, maybe there's a way to get through the absolute worst thing that's ever happened in a different way, in a better way, in a more loving way, so that you calm yourself and love yourself and that little kid inside who's freaking terrified. We're all just a bunch of little children running around as adults. And until we start to parent ourselves in the way that we wish we had been parented, without any um, by the way, judgment of our parents. I gotta say, I am not mad at all. My parents are amazing. I love them so much. They did their best. And it doesn't mean it was good enough for me. It doesn't mean it didn't traumatize me, right? Like all the parents out there probably know. Like, probably you're not trying to traumatize your kids, but you still are in some way, because you're human. So the more you learn how to parent yourself a bit better, uh, I can pretty much guarantee you'll parent your kids better. You know, and if you mess up and you realize, oh, I haven't been really parenting super well, well, that's okay. Why don't you apologize to your kid? Why don't you show them that it's okay to do that? That it's okay to say you're sorry and shift gears. Why don't you apologize to yourself? I do it all the time. It's kind of nice. You know, my parents didn't apologize to me a lot growing up. It wasn't kind of part of our culture. I think in the States it's more culturally just like appropriate where parents are like, oh, I'm so sorry, sweetie, I did that. I literally don't think I ever heard an apology. Uh and then I realized, well, okay, well, I'm gonna do that. Because I think it's nice to own and apologize, right? Yeah. So those have been sort of the simple steps, and nothing I talk about, by the way, is rocket science, but masterful listening to create peace among chaos means first you allow yourself to feel, normalize it, acknowledge it. I feel this. It's normal that I feel this. What can I do to process it? All right, a good cry, a good scream, a good laugh, a good movie, a good four hours sinking into my couch, a good walk, whatever, uh, some food. I have not been eating the best food, but I've been eating comfort food. That's cool, that's okay, right? Ask good questions, savor the moment. You know, if you're sick or someone you love is sick, can you tune into right now? Are they collapsing in this moment? And if they are, how can you show up for that? How would you want someone to show up for you if you were really suffering? Would you want to cause them more pain and suffering? Or would you want them to find some way to be there for you and love you to the best of their ability and not hurt themselves more? You know, if you're listening to this podcast, I'm gonna assume if you care about masterful listening, you probably also care about the relationships in your life. So you probably don't want those that you love to suffer, right? And so we want to treat ourselves the way we treat those that we love, and often we treat others better. So look inward. How are you treating the adult you versus how you would treat the little you? It's sometimes easier to be kinder to the cute little parts of us, right? I mean, little sweat's super cute, but this sweat's pretty cute too. She's just had life beat the hell out of her a little more. So it's you know, it's it's not simple. Or it's simple, it's not easy. So that's what I wanna leave you with a little more. What would your little self say or do regarding whatever situation you're facing right now? Try to even have a conversation. So I'm gonna do it right now with little Svietta. And the way I do that is I literally I just breathe and I close my eyes and I just imagine that little girl, and she's so cute. And so many photos of myself. I look kind of sad, it's so funny. I feel like all little Russian, Eastern European kids look kind of sad in photos, such a communist thing. But little Svieta, what what do you want to say to me right now? What do you want to do right now, considering that your doggy isn't feeling well and you've been kind of sad? I just see her hugging Rad and just telling him how cute he is, which I've been doing so much. She also says she wants some food, something yummy, like some potatoes. Yeah, that hasn't changed. What does she need? Aw, she just kind of wraps her arms around me. I think all I really needed as a kid was a hug. I still really need that. You know, since all this happened, I don't think I've gotten like a real hug from anyone. That's what made me so sad as I was laying this weekend. Oh no, that's not true. I did get a really good hug from my dear friend DJ this week. So thank you, DJ. That was so nice. Um, but I was laying and I just was like, I just wish someone could hold me so I could cry and cry and cry. And then I have this little stuffed banana toy that my dear cosmic hubby Jonathan gave me, and I just hugged that banana and I was like, but I'm gonna hug me, I'm gonna hug me. And I felt a little bit sad that I had to be the one to hug me, and then I was like, but I always have me to hug me. So I'm hugging little Svieta. I'm hugging you. If you don't have anyone who can give you a hug right now, but you need one, wrap your arms around your shoulders really tight and just love yourself right now in this moment. Just hug yourself. Feels really good. You can do that if you have arms, hug yourself more, hug yourself all the time. And if you have someone in your life who you can just ask for more hugs from, please do that. They probably would be happy to hug you and hug for a long time. Hug for five minutes if you can. Lay down and just hug and snuggle. Oh, it's so healing. So as I wrap up, I want to say things have been really hard. I've had moments of such grief and loss and panic and fear. But I've also, since going through this process of connecting to the little me and savoring the moment and asking good questions and bringing myself back and feeling and talking to the moon, the last two days have felt so normal in the best way. You know, life is the normal days, the everyday shit. Life isn't like the fancy things we once in a while can buy or eat or do or the vacations. It's like the everyday. And you know, when life gets really chaotic and we're like, man, I wish things just were back to normal. Whereas when things are kind of normal and boring, we're like, oh, I wish for something really special. Yeah. Like, isn't it incredible how often through hardship we do start appreciating, wow, how great was last week. I thought on Wednesday when I was sitting on the floor of the neurologist's office, I thought, damn, one week ago everything was so incredible. And I didn't even know. I mean, I knew, but I didn't know as well how in one moment my whole life changed, and all I wanted was to go back, but I can't go back, and you can't go back. The one thing we really cannot do is rewind the clock. But we can be in this moment differently and in the next one, and the next one, but also stop living in the future. You're not there, and you're also not a psychic, okay? You don't know what's gonna happen, so consider that things might maybe maybe end up even better than what you imagined, different. I would have not written this into my story. But you know what? Maybe, and I'm gonna believe this, and I don't care if it's delusional, because I am gonna be in grief and in pain regardless. But maybe this little miracle, magic baby dog rad, who is cuter every single moment. I don't know how he does that, but he does. Maybe he just gave me a taste of absolute kind of horror to bring me even deeper into present gratitude. Because I'm telling you, the love and the gratitude for him is even stronger than it was before, which was like, how there's no way that's gonna happen. Yeah, it did. And maybe now, as I tell myself that you know what, we're gonna have great days. He's gonna live as long as he wants. And fuck that six-month prognosis. Rad could live for years. It is possible. So why not believe that? And don't think about that. Be in the moment, enjoy the time you have, love, love, love the people that you love. Tell them we can lose anybody any freaking moment. And the person we should be most concerned about losing is ourselves. Don't lose connection to that inner child. Your inner child, even if it's afraid, is wise, is present. So talk to them, love them, hug them, give them a special little treat today because they deserve it. You deserve it, masterful listener. Okay. Thank you for listening up until this point. Your homework this week, or whenever you want to do it, but you know, maybe you're a little inspired to do it sooner than later, is um write down a list of all the things you're grateful for in advance for next month, and then let it go. Put it away, tuck it away, and be in your life. Breathe a little more, talk to yourself a little more, and just hug yourself right now. Hug yourself as many times a day as you want, just keep doing it. It's good for the body, it's good for the mind, it's good for the soul. And as always, please share this with those you love, with those you want to have more peace in times of joy and in times of chaos. Because I'm pretty sure that if I've found some way to have a good day now, uh well, anything's possible. So thank you in advance to life for all that's to come, and may I be able to be present for all of it with the absolute most amount of peace and presence, and may you be able to do the same thing. I'll see you next time.